Bondage basics for beginners.

by Cam Fraser // March 24 // 0 Comments

I often get asked about how to introduce bondage into the bedroom? Here are some bondage basics for beginners.

If you’re new to bondage/restraints, my 1st suggestion would be find someone you feel comfortable with exploring these things. It could be your partner, or someone who you’ve got a good sexual history with, or a trusted professional. Feeling safe with the person you’re either restraining or who is restraining you is important. Don’t try it with strangers.

If you and/or your sexual partner are new to restraint play, be sure to drop some hints about your desire to explore it before actually introducing it. It is so cliché, but communication is key. You don’t want to blindside your partner with bondage gear one night and them to feel overwhelmed by it. Maybe read some erotic fiction together or watch an adult movie that accurately depicts bondage.

This can help to dispel misconceptions about bondage. There is a lot of societal noise surrounding bondage and BDSM in general, so getting some quality information from sex- pleasure- and kink-positive professionals can help destigmatise your desires and contextualize the experience

When you and your partner(s) feel ready to experiment with bondage, you’re going to have to decide what type of restraints you want to use. This will be determined by carefully choosing which positions you want to try. For example, you want to simply lie on your back with your hands restrained above your head. This may call for something like the Fifty Shades of Grey Sweet Anticipation Reversible Faux Leather Wrist Cuffs. Or you may desire to spread all your partners limbs out on the bed. In that case, you may need the Fifty Shades of Grey Sweet Anticipation Reversible Faux Leather Under Mattress Restraint Set.

When beginning bondage, it is best to keep it simple. Cuffs and even blindfolds or ball gags are easier to introduce than harnesses and rope. If it is your partner who is new to bondage, starting simple can also make it more accessible and enjoyable for them. If your partner is the one who has more experience with bondage, ask them to explain what they’ve tried and what they haven’t, and why they liked it.

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Cam Fraser is a Certified Professional Sex Coach and Certified Sexologist. Being a former Tantric Yoga Teacher, his work integrates scientifically validated, medically accurate information about sexual health, with sacred sexuality teachings from the mystery traditions. As a coach, he helps men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame.

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