What About Toxic Femininity?

by Cam Fraser // March 30 // 0 Comments

Whenever I post about "toxic masculinity," I usually receive comments like these:

There is an assumption that the phrase "toxic femininity" doesn't exist. But the phrase does exist and has been featured in prominent media outlets.

There is also the assumption that calling out "toxic femininity" will receive backlash. But if you are doing so in good faith and not just as a gotcha gimmick, you're probably not going to receive backlash.

Speaking about "toxic masculinity" receives plenty of backlash anyway, so it is a bit of a moot point. And bringing awareness to one thing doesn't mean that another thing doesn't exist or occur. This is whataboutism.

While "toxic masculinity" is spoken about more often than "toxic femininity" in mainstream discourse, the idea that there are no platforms for men to air their grievances about women or even utter the words "toxic femininity" is hyperbolic.

Men have and will continue to write books and make videos about how terrible they think feminism is. They are not being denied or de-platformed, although they may be dismissed.

On my modest social media platform, I've attempted to offer good faith critiques of both feminism and men's rights activism. I've found that I generally receive the same amount of support and/or disagreement for both topics.

Engaging in hyperbole, straw man arguments, whataboutism, and ad hominem attacks is something I do my best to steer clear of. I'm always open to discussion so long as you're acting in good faith.

Cam Fraser is a Certified Professional Sex Coach and Certified Sexologist. Being a former Tantric Yoga Teacher, his work integrates scientifically validated, medically accurate information about sexual health, with sacred sexuality teachings from the mystery traditions. As a coach, he helps men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame.

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